Eau d'esperation is a pretty hard stink to get rid of when your end goal is a relationship.
This is what happens when sex toys are designed by that dude from the 'Saw' movies.
There's an excellent chance that whatever you were taught about sex is either partially misleading or dangerously incorrect.
I like to give these offenders the benefit of the doubt, because I assume they just don't know any better and I'd prefer not to die alone, so sometimes it seems like there isn't much choice.
If it exists, there's porn of it. No exceptions.