I can't argue that those people aren't out there, but my dislike of The Matrix has nothing to do with being special or feeling smarter than everybody. I hate it because it spends what feels like three hours of its 136-minute runtime (take that, math!) explaining what you'd think is a pretty simple concept. Morpheus is using Alice in Wonderland metaphors and walking Neo through all these different virtual environments while talking, talking, talking like this concept is so hard to grasp that you need to come at it from all these different angles.

"Actually, the real world you lived in was a virtual reality simulation. If you know that world is fake, and really really believe it, you can do anything you want and be a wizard." There. Now you can skip to the part where you can do magic instead of running out of time and doing only like one magic thing.

Warner Bros. PicturesThis is the only time in the first movie they actually used the premise of being able to do "anything," when "anything" didn't just mean "fight like a regular person except faster and stronger." You wait two hours for this.

Have the people living in the Matrix not heard of virtual reality? Did the machines kill their William Gibsons and the guy who invented the Virtual Boy headset before they could blow the lid off this thing? Fine, just say the real world is a "shared dream." Seems like they should know what dreams are. And MORPHEUS STOP LOOKING AT ME AFTER YOU EXPLAIN EVERYTHING AND ASKING ME IF I GET IT OR IF I NEED YOU GO SLOWER.

Bottom line, I feel like the movie is personally, directly talking down to me, as an individual, and I want to fight it, mano a mano. Before now, I've barely even brought this up to any other people, because I don't care about impressing them with my edginess or whatever. This is between me and that damn movie.

You want to go, Matrix? LET'S GO. I'm ready any time.

A lot of you are going to disagree with my assessment of The Matrix, and you probably have some good rebuttals or explanations or whatever for why the exposition was fitting for the plot, or that it was about Neo's character having a hard time adjusting to a new reality and not the audience being stupid. That's great, and I strongly encourage you to share those points with another Matrix fan.

It's not that I think your points will be wrong, I just hate conflict. Sometimes it can't be avoided, and for that very reason, I want to save my energy for arguing a friend out of a scam, or trying to convince someone not to be racist, or, you know, something that matters.

If you like The Matrix, that's cool. I've got no beef with you. Some of my best friends are Matrix fans! Life's too short to spend hours trying to convince other people that their favorite movie was bad and they shouldn't have liked it.

Getty"Well, I'm late for work too, but neither of us is going anywhere until you admit The Hobbit was a turd."

Though it's obviously all coming out here, when I'm in discussions with people, face-to-face or online, I actually try really hard to avoid bringing it up if I don't like something they really like. If my co-workers are talking Game of Thrones, I'll just listen and say, "Oh," same as if they were telling me about their aunt's surgery. If they ask me point blank what I think about it, I'll just say, "Haven't really gotten a chance to watch much, sorry."

If you mention you don't like something in the midst of people that are known fans, everyone's first impression is that you are looking for a fight. They think you are trying to troll or provoke them -- get some kind of reaction -- or evangelize them into realizing their favorite thing is stupid.

But like the manager in every movie holdup scene, I just don't want any trouble. Sure, I think it's weird that some of my friends like Firefly, but if they can forgive me for constantly forgetting their birthdays, I think I can let that go.

Still, sometimes it's tough to just bite your tongue and keep silent, like a migrant worker who can't complain about dangerous levels of pesticide exposure because their employer will deport them, except worse than that.

The other reason some people make a big stink about a popular TV show or movie is to draw attention to a cause. People were fussing about Girls not having enough minorities or something, and I think there's some gripes about Game of Thrones being misogynistic.

This is sometimes legit, I think. If something popular actually is racist or misogynistic, maybe that is a good opportunity to draw attention to racism or misogyny or what have you. Unfortunately, I can't really point you to a good example where the criticism was deserved, because I don't care enough to pay attention to these things.

I'm a really apathetic person, so I can't be bothered to protest or hashtag or write my congressperson about anything. Occasionally, I write a column if something makes my eyes roll too much and I need to relieve the pressure, but that's about it.

GettyEyeroll strain -- the unseen epidemic that plagues millions of cynical Americans.

Unfortunately, if I happen to hate a show that turns out to have a big political protest against it of some kind, everybody's going to lump me in with the protesters. If I say on some forum that I don't want to watch Girls, somebody is going to pop up and tell me why it isn't racist, or why it isn't misogynistic, or why it isn't whatever the complaint is. I don't care about any of that.

I don't want to watch it because all the reviews, interviews, and promotions make it sound like it's boring. It looks like a bunch of in-jokes for self-centered city people and the people that know them. This is the impression given by their own PR and their own words. I'm a working mom -- I'm not made of free time. You want me to give your show a chance? Try to make it sound less like 30 minutes of jerking off.

It sucks when people just automatically assume your problem with a show is about some kind of activism. It's like being a law-abiding black person walking down the street and watching white people cross to the other side because they assume you're up to no good, except much more offensive.

Sure, there are plenty of people you could argue with about a movie or show or book or whatever, but I've already gone over how I feel about arguing about trivial things. And if you're talking to someone with an opposite opinion about the movie, there's not much to talk about outside of whether the thing was good or bad.

"But there's plenty we could talk about," you might think, "like the character development of, I don't know, Jaime Lannister or something." Sure, we both have things to say about it, but you'd be mentioning things that you think work or don't work in the development of a strong or potentially strong character, and I'd be talking about how the shitty choices in the development of a shit character contribute to the overall shittiness of the show. Never mind the conflict, I don't think it would technically even be the same conversation.

Also, a lot of people, you know, stop watching something when they realize they don't like it, so we don't even really have the knowledge to have a useful discussion with fans who have kept up.

Getty"Why did you expect there to be more drugs and homeless people? What? No, it's called Downton Abbey."

"But if you only talk to people who agree with you, it would just be an echo chamber," you might think, "where you and your fellow non-fans pat each other's backs for not liking the bad show." I think of an echo chamber as a place where people would talk about why the thing is bad, reinforcing the rightness of their own conclusions. What I'd like to do is find people that accept the show is bad, so we don't have to discuss why, and can just have nice little discussions based on that premise.

We could complain about not being able to get away from the advertising! We could each share what moment the show lost us. We could talk about which other shows we think tackle the concept better, or what changes this show could make to be watchable. If we know some background about the directors and writers and the show's development, maybe we could come up with theories why the show turned out like it did (terrible).

Source art: Getty I'm working on licensing a party game based on this concept, here's the tentative box art.

But it's hard to find these people. Anyone who is really vocal about disliking a popular movie or TV show is almost always a hipster or a troll, just trying to get attention and stir things up. They don't have anything new or interesting to say, they just rephrase different ways of saying that something sucks.

Anyone who's worth talking to is probably quiet and burying it, just like I usually do (this column excepted). This is exactly like the problems gay people have finding other gay people in gay-hostile communities and cultures around the world without exposing themselves to ridicule or violence, except my situation is clearly worse.

Or when you complain about a dumb popcorn movie like The Expendables, someone always has to explain that it's supposed to be dumb fun, and what were you expecting, Sense and Sensibility? Yes. I was expecting Sense and Sensibility. I was confused and upset when The Expendables turned out to be an action movie. That must be the problem.

Getting talked down to like this is pretty much the same as a rape victim being told to be more careful next time, except worse.