"No practicing! Practice makes defect!"
In the sequel, Boy Meets Girl, Say Hello To Courtship, Harris tells the story of how he met and married his wife. He was a virgin, because of course he was. His wife, however, had not saved herself. Chapter 10 is titled "When Your Past Comes Knocking: How You Can Face Past Sexual Sin and Experience God's Forgiveness." Because of her infidelity to a man she hadn't yet met, Pastor Douche's fiance needed to apologize and receive forgiveness from her "sexually pure" husband:
Shannon's tear-soaked napkin lay crumpled on the table in front of her. She opened her mouth to try again, but faltered and dropped her head. She just couldn't get it out. The task was too hard. The words were unbearably heavy, and she felt so weak. "I'm sorry," she whispered.
Yup, Christian Christian Grey is somehow an even bigger emotionally manipulative douche.
Again, the thing she's apologizing for there is that she had sex while she was single in high school, before she became a Christian, and years before she had even met the guy she was talking to. "I want you to know," she says to him, "that if you decide you need to end our relationship ... I won't hold it against you." Nowhere is this treated as anything other than an example of how a woman should feel in that situation.
If you find that unsettling, you have to understand something about the culture. "No sex before marriage" isn't exactly a rare, fringe idea among the world's religions, but when we talk about abstinence-only sex education and Christian "purity culture," there's a weird and fairly creepy side to it. Some of you saw John Oliver mock abstinence-only sex ed videos on his show earlier this year. These are programs that compare women who've had premarital sex with old chewing gum that's lost its flavor, tape that's lost its stickiness due to overuse, or an old, worn-out shoe -- in other words, things fit only for the trash: