How Do You Tell Your Daughter Dad Is Gay?
The last time Matthew and J did the deed, they were blessed with the gift that keeps on giving. No, not antibiotic-resistant syphilis -- a child.
"Last time we had sex was nine months before our daughter was born -- May 2005. The wedding was October 2005."
Huh. Suspicious timing, that.
Matthew and J are raising her to be open-minded: "We talk to our daughter about acceptance. Gay marriage support has been voiced in the house by both of us." The family has even attended a Pride festival together. But they haven't told her the truth. Matthew is terrified of the day she figures it all out. At this point, neither he nor J have so much as dropped a hint about his past. Despite their focus on open-minded acceptance, Matthew and J really don't have a solid plan for how to deal with the day their kid fully understands all the different ways genitalia can play together.
"I'm hoping it will happen organically ... You know, no Santa, no tooth fairy, Dad is gay, no Easter Bunny."
At least she'll never have to deal with every teen's fear of accidentally catching their parents banging.
You can practically hear the record scratch and the coffee being spit.
After 10 years of wedded semi-bliss, Matthew admits there are cracks in the foundation -- deep ones that have nourished a sad kind of resentment. Once the newlyweds sobered up, the broken promises started to pile up, and the lack of passion settled in. Matthew began to feel restless.
"[I think about leaving] every damned day -- but then I ask myself why. I'm too tired. It's kind of like the movie Date Night. Life just kind of sneaks up on you, and before you know it, 10, 15, 20 years have passed. We got married at 30, and now I'm in my 40s with a kid. Porn is easier. But I'm (usually) not bitter. I've been around long enough to realize that I don't like being beholden to anyone. Regardless of gender, I do not ever see myself getting married again."
Nobody wants to be on the hook for a second $700 cake.
Matthew isn't lonely, but he isn't very happy either. He doesn't want another relationship, but he doesn't really want to be married anymore. It's complicated -- like calculus. Like calculus that slowly and inevitably breaks your heart until you can't stand it anymore. You know, calculus II.
But despite our colorful prose, Matt has no intention of leaving his wife. He feels a duty to care for his family: "I stay with her because we have a lovely 10-year-old daughter and my wife has MS, so who else is going to take care of her?" In a way, Matt and J's relationship is the perfect love story for the modern era. No one's a good guy, no one's a bad guy, everyone's kind of bummed out, and the best-case scenario involves quietly holding onto pain with one hand while masturbating furiously with the other.
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