It's easy to look at a famous actor or athlete crying "sex addiction" and think, "Gee, what is this horrible disease that's causing him to have sex with so many beautiful women, and how can I catch it?" But for a regular person with those compulsive urges, having sex is less like enjoying a glass of fine Scotch and more like rushing to a convenience store at 3 a.m. to dump armloads of MD 20/20 into your cart. It's only pleasurable in the sense that it's pleasurable to scratch an angry rash. "I can't think of a way to describe how incredibly powerful this urge is," Oliver says. "It's not like how normal teenagers think about sex; it's an overpowering 'I don't think I can function without doing this.' Drug addicts talk about this a lot. 'What's the thing that could lead you to screw over your mother?' That's what it's like."
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The gist of which you bottle up instead of exposing yourself to the worst pillow talk of all time.
So after losing his virginity to a prostitute, "because I couldn't fucking stop it," he "started going out and having sex with anyone who would sleep with me -- which, when you're 15, is not a great idea. So what I would do is end up sleeping with a lot of older men." Did we mention he didn't identify as gay at the time? "I didn't want to. I could feel it shrieking in my head, 'I DON'T WANT TO DO THIS,' but it was almost like a dissociative state ... I was 21 before I said 'No' to someone I didn't want to sleep with."