Now, asexual people are still perfectly capable of falling in love, so a well-written movie relationship is always compelling. But making a believable relationship requires a lot of time and build up, and that's really hard to do when you've got to fit in a dozen awesome fight scenes as well. It's much easier to simply stick two sexy people together on screen. Hollywood knows our brains will do the rest.
"Clearly, these two people who barely know each other are destined to bone."
This makes a lot of movie love stories boring and nonsensical to asexual viewers:
Andy: "I can (and like) watching emotional relationships build up in movies, and it is no problem if two lovers have sex ... However, if they just two sexy people hot for each other, and there is no real relationship behind, I find it very boring."
But the real awkwardness comes from misunderstandings around simple things like hickeys:
Julianna: "I once spent a day following a friend of mine around, telling him that if he needed a safe place to stay my house was open to him, because he had weird red marks on his neck and I thought he was being abused. He had to pull me aside and explain to me, an adult, what a hickey is, just so I would leave him alone."
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"Suddenly, I understood why someone would ever want to wear a turtleneck."
If all of this is sounding a little crazy to you, well, that's another problem asexual people deal with every day. Sex, and the ability to find something "hot," is so central to most of our lives and worldviews that we can't conceive of another human being lacking that entirely. As a result ...