7 Phrases That Are Great Signs It's Time to Stop Talking

Here's some phrases that signal some actual bad things coming that nobody wants any part of.
7 Phrases That Are Great Signs It's Time to Stop Talking

Anyone who's ever watched a really lame, unoriginal stand-up routine knows that "We need to talk ..." is a magical red flag phrase that means you need to run away as soon as possible, because it means a woman is going to bore you to death or break up with you while boring you to death. Obviously, if there are problems in your relationship, a reasonable woman should deal with it by, I don't know, disappearing without a word or shooting you when you're not expecting it or something, I guess. I don't pretend to understand what these comics want.

But here's some phrases that signal some actual bad things coming that nobody wants any part of.

"I'm Not a Racist, But ..."

I'm not going to spend a lot of time on this, because everybody knows that this phrase is inevitably followed up by something extremely racist. I do want to point out that it's pretty much impossible for any non-racist statement to follow this phrase just because of the way it's structured.

Wow I hate to say this and Im not racist but black people do the most ignorant shit I have ever seenill But there are wonderful black people in this w
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You'd have to either follow it with something that makes no sense, like "I'm not a racist, but I think black people and white people can both excel intellectually," or note a difference so neutral that there is no reason to point it out, like "I'm not a racist, but black people generally have darker skin than white people."

I not really being racist, but we have to face the fact the majority of am that these rioters are part black, black or wannabe blacks. Justshows they
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I guess occasionally someone wants to talk about the crime rate or income disparities between races and wants to throw in some caveats before they wade into a touchy subject, but anyone sensitive enough to discuss something that nuanced usually isn't going to toss out their entire viewpoint in half a sentence (the half after "I'm not a racist"). Anyone able to talk about a complex hot-button issue in an appropriate way has better and more specific caveats than the shitty old "I'm not a racist," which is apparently a good marker for illiteracy as well as racism.

Im not racist but wtf is with east indian ol smiling after you bitch at them for almost hitting you with a pallet jack and wave like its ok?! I seriou
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By the way, the above screenshots come courtesy of I'm Not Racist, But ..., which is one of several blogs that track this phrase across the Internet, showing that despite how well-known and mocked it is, you still can't swing a dead LOLcat without hitting an "I'm not a racist but" tweet or comment.

"I'm Not Afraid of What Anyone Thinks"

Not being afraid of what other people think is a good thing. Constantly telling other people this, however, is a red flag, signalling that you're not focused on the vital truths you are championing so much as the reactions you get from telling them.

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"I like to fart in elevators! What are you going to do with that?"

Other warning phrases along the same lines include "I tell it like it is" and "I'm outspoken and opinionated, and it might rub some people the wrong way." When you convince yourself that you are this TV character description, it goes a long way toward shielding yourself from finding out that you are wrong or said something stupid by allowing you to frame it as a bunch of closed-minded prudes/nerds/bourgeoisie being shocked that you are such a colorful individual. Of course they are calling you dumb because they can't handle your attitude, not because you claimed that horses were invented in the 1800s.

You get two kinds of statements out of this person. One, you get cliches they repeat from other people, which were possibly provocative and clever upon their first use, like the hoary "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle," or a mangled paraphrase from Douglas Adams that they don't really understand. Basically, it's an attempt to copy the edginess of someone smarter and more original than they are with the effectiveness of a preliterate child copying the Declaration of Independence.

Take a look at this firecracker.

I tell it like it is, I call 'em how I see 'em. I'm outspoken and opinionated and I make no apologies for it. If my tweets offend you, don't follow me

I wonder what kind of monocle-popping in-your-face sass I can expect out of this one!

The hardest person to be honest with is yourself. Lying to yourself won't change the truth. Expand

Advice is easy to give and much harder to follow. Imagine life if we did half the things We tell others to do.... Expand

Statements truly worthy of noted shockmeister Stuart Smalley.

In addition to advice you can find in your grandmother's needlepoint, you'll also find this type:

I'm outspoken and opinionated. I say what I want, when I want, about whomever I want. Got a problem with it then get over it.

Oh boy, I bet this one's going to be a real live wire. I wonder what kind of crazy and offensive tweets we're going to get on this account.

Blaaaahhhjjh

This rain suckS ass

Locked my fin keys in my car lo/

Fucking locked my keys in my damn carllll

So damn tired

Borreeddddddddddd

So they promise a lot, but quite often deliver poorly remembered quotes from provocateurs who are now deceased, advice found on Precious Moments bookmarks, and AOL chat room filler.

"Plato's Allegory of the Cave"

This phrase usually sets off all the alarms that you are talking to someone who (1) has just discovered philosophy and (2) doesn't think anyone else has. Ninety-nine percent of the time when someone brings up the Allegory of the Cave, they are using it as a metaphor to talk about people living in a world where they only have a limited perception of reality, like the Matrix, and how some people get a chance to get outside of that and see all of reality, like Neo going outside the Matrix.

7 Phrases That Are Great Signs It's Time to Stop Talking

It is a good analogy, because learning about the real world is a lot like waking up in your own pee/food solution.

First of all, there is a lot more to the Allegory of the Cave than that simple overview, stuff that is mostly interesting to people who are really interested in philosophy, which doesn't include me. It also doesn't include most of the people who bring up the allegory. Secondly, given the wide popularity of The Matrix, that movie is a much simpler analogy to use for anyone who wants to talk about limited versions of reality.

I guess it depends on whether the priority is on getting your listeners to quickly understand your arguments so you can move on to make your point without having to retell and explain a story about caves and fires and shadows that some of them probably won't be familiar with, or whether the priority is to let people know that you read Plato once.

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"Today I learned he was a philosopher and not a type of modeling clay."

Also a warning flag is anyone who brings up the Prisoner's Dilemma game theory scenario, which in theory is often relevant as a useful insight into discussing how people make decisions, but in practice is almost always inserted clumsily as a badge of behavioral expertise or something. Ten percent of the time people bring it up because they think it is relevant, and 90 percent of the time because they just read about it in Discover Magazine or Mental Floss.

There's always the possibility that someone who brings up one of these things genuinely feels it's the best tool to explain what they're getting at, but once they start to pile up, there can be no mistake. If someone mentions the Allegory of the Cave, the Prisoner's Dilemma, Occam's razor and Schroedinger's cat in the course of their argument, just drop everything and get the hell out of there before they start telling you the fable about the scorpion and the frog.

7 Phrases That Are Great Signs It's Time to Stop Talking

Don't know if I'm remembering this one right.

"Self-Diagnosed"

I've self-diagnosed myself to have leukemia and/ or lymphoma... Do 1 have a reason to be concerned?

Self-diagnosed people can be at best the cause of an awkward social situation and at worst dangerous. If you're suffering from severe depression, the last thing you want is advice from people with mild mood swings who have diagnosed themselves as bipolar and tell you to avoid therapy and medication and just think more positive thoughts.

Even if you don't have the condition and you're just reading or listening for curiosity's sake, there's not really anything to be learned from people who are certain they have ADHD or Asperger's no matter what those lying doctors say, unless you want to learn what they imagine life is like for an ADHD or Asperger's sufferer.

Well-meaning websites like WebMD sometimes make things worse by printing bullet-point lists of symptoms for various conditions. The intent is for you to see if you have a bunch of symptoms, and if so, go to a professional and get officially diagnosed and then treated. But I guess there's a bit of human nature that makes many of us want to treat it like a Seventeen magazine quiz where we add up points (1 point for A, 2 points for B, 3 points for C ...), and if we score 15 or more, we're schizophrenic!

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"Oooh, looks like Susie has PTSD!"

Sure, sometimes it may be helpful for individuals to get coping tips from others with similar problems without going through intimidating medical professionals, but most people who like to speak at length about their self-diagnosis to strangers aren't just looking for help, they're looking to give it, including explaining authoritatively what the condition does or doesn't involve, saying what everyone in the same condition should do and even prescribing drugs sometimes.

Even if you believe in the helpfulness of Internet psychological self-diagnosis, I'm sure we can at least agree that someone self-diagnosed with non-Hodgkin's lymphoma should be immediately sent to a doctor where they can hopefully find out it's just a cold. And that you should know just from the title that this one is going to be weird:

Self Diagnosed Myself With Gallbladder 515 April 17th. 2012 I've been having. what I've self diagnosed myself with as gallbladder pain for about 2 1/2

OK, yes, hair loss can be one of the symptoms, but usually a person's primary concern is the unimaginable pain.

"Yes, I'm a Female Gamer, Believe It or Not"

You can substitute almost anything for "gamer," except "man," maybe, because you have to admit that would actually be inherently surprising. In this day and age, millions of girls play games, half the population of the Internet is female and we've been riveting things since the 1940s, so it's a little outdated to burst into anywhere and reassure people that their eyes are not lying to them, they are in fact seeing a woman in this masculine environment. Female CEOs and oil rig workers may be very rare, but people are aware they can exist and aren't going to do a cartoon double-take upon seeing one.

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"Oh no, my house was designed by a FEMALE ARCHITECT!"

Most of the time when you see/hear this phrase, it's in response to a question that isn't being asked. It appears in people's signatures, taglines, profiles and other places where it's theoretically the first introduction you have to a person. It's like being introduced to someone at a social function and having them shout, "Damn right I'm female! No need to adjust your glasses!" before you have even said hi.

It can be a little insulting that they assume everyone they run into is going to have that question in their heads -- "Can it really be a woman I am seeing?" -- but OK, let's say they're in a particularly sheltered environment full of males and that question actually comes up a lot. The trouble is that they rarely stop at answering this first unasked question and usually come up with an entire imaginary interview you are giving them, which they are happy to provide anticipated answers for.

Steam Profile Profile OMFG A GIRL PLAYZ GAMEZ?! Yes. m a girL and 00 to not interested in giving you my myspace or facebook link 1 don't want to be yo

Steam Profile Profilee Tm a gamer. Yes i'm a gir! Yes, my display picture is in fact Me No I'm not faking Yesl have vent No 1 will not put UP with you

Sure, maybe some people have asked them some of these questions, but I find it hard to imagine someone asking, "Will you put up with my pervertedness?"

Also, I don't know if this applies to other games, but in my time in World of Warcraft, I noticed that anyone who goes out of their way to introduce themselves with "Yeah, I'm a girl, believe it or not!" is a terrible player. I'm not saying girls are terrible players, I'm saying girls whose first statement upon meeting anyone is "I'm a girl! Hold on to your monocle!" is terrible. And if someone brings it up as their first statement, it is inevitable they will bring it up many, many times in the future, including sometimes as an excuse when they get everyone killed ("lol I guess my boobs got in the way!").

Here's a good example of someone who appears to be terrible at Skyrim, somehow.

4 months ago Im a level 35 Brenton in Skyrim (yes, I'm a girl who plays Skyrim) and I dislike how my character looks. Should I make a new one? I woul

And the response:

1 monfh ago babe. dont give a bad name to us girl skyrim players. its breton not brenton. join the dark brotherhood and get a masked cowl that will on

There's nothing more deflating to one of these types than a female in the same field who is actually good at it.

"Fwd: FW: FW: ..."

If you get an email whose subject line starts with five or more variations of "FW:" it's pretty safe to put that right in the trash, the only danger being your mom getting mad at you later for not replying to her important email about pomegranate juice curing cancer or something.

END Fw: FWd. Fw: Fwd: FW: )Cancer Update from Johns Hopkins A

This was, of course, a hoax.

Email forwards once were the hot way of spreading things around virally but are now pretty much obsolete among anyone under age 40. Now Twitter and Facebook and message boards are the way most Internet users get linked to funny pictures of cats and shocking news stories, leaving email forwards with precious little to do. An email forward is almost guaranteed to contain (1) A hoax, (2) a virus or (3) a trite inspirational story with a lot of capital letters, probably.

Fwd: FW: IF l HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER by Erma Bombeck

A scan of email-forward hoaxes reveals a bunch of subjects that mostly moms would be interested in, like how lemons can cure cancer, fake Amber Alerts and fake charities for sick children.

Fwd: FW: COFFEE 3 Tricks to Make it Super-Healthy

Fwd: Fw: You have got to see this!-Women Only

That last one sounds exciting, but actually links to this slightly creepy personalized tampon ad thing, after several lines of talking about how amazing it is. Basically, the more excited moms are about passing this along (the number of "FW:"s), the less worthwhile to you it is going to be.

On the other hand, I guess you could read them to get some insight into the mom mind and craft some strategic emails your mom is certain to take seriously.

Fwd: EW: FW: FW: FW: Nagging your kids about when they are getting married can cause them to explode! Ihoy

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