5 Reasons Why Anticonformity Is Worse Than Conformity

It's a rare person who actually changes anything significant about their personality straight out of anticonformity, or spite. Nobody, in an effort to avoid joining the crowd, changes their work ethic or religious beliefs -- not for more than a couple of weeks anyway. That kind of change is hard.
So if you're just trying to be different because you want to be different, you usually change your hair color or your clothes or the music you listen to. Maybe you change your hobbies from tennis to writing depressing poetry. Maybe you throw out your Barbies and start collecting newspaper articles on serial killers. Maybe you make everyone stop calling you Gordon and start calling you Ryuzaki.

Or you paint anime eyes on your eyelids.
None of that really changes much about who you are. If anything, it might give you a false sense of accomplishment that you've distanced yourself from your embarrassing past or your sordid family history or whatever you're trying to get away from.
Really changing your life takes a lot more work than that and sure isn't going to happen with a knee-jerk reaction against some cosmetic things that symbolize your past or background. You'd have to really look at your deep-seated bad habits (or even addictions, if you have them) or maybe change your career, or go into counseling to fix a relationship, or maybe even change your diet. These things aren't fun and don't give you the little rush of, say, getting a new hat nobody else has. But they'll actually make a difference.

Jeffy here on the right really loves his TMZ. He is really confused because he's changed his clothes, his hair, started listening to the "right" music, and eschewed the consumerism of corporate America. Yet he still finds himself sneaking off to Perez Hilton's website when nobody else is looking.
Now, granted, Jeffy has very poor taste. But that's who he is, and all his attempts to be "different" to try to find a distinct identity and separate himself from the mainstream have just put him in another little box of rules that still keep him from doing what he likes.
The point is that whether you're trying mainly to be like other people or trying mainly to not be like other people, either way you'll be too busy to learn how to try to be yourself.
No matter how different we are, we're all going to die one day.

When that day comes, and you're halfway down the digestive system of a bear, do you want to remember having lived your life based on what you wanted and what you thought was right, or do you want to remember a life based on either what other people told you to do, or not do? You'll be in unimaginable agony either way, but still, I like to think it matters.
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If you hate what's in, it's not nonconformism, it's being a hipster. Being a nonconformist is something like not caring if you're in a party and you're wearing the same shirt with some random dude. It's being simple. I mean, it's better than not wearing a shirt at all. A nonconformist wouldn't look for a fight. They're just there to live and do what they like. And it's hipster if you found someone wearing the same shirt as yours and you're gonna start hating him so much. Being a hipster is different from being nonconformist.
Reply"Being a hipster is different from being nonconformist."
So being a hipster is not conforming to nonconformity?
I'm 15 right now, and I'm on a high school where every dude is obsessed with Call of Duty, Jersey Shore and just anything with violence or Big Momma comedy (Welcome to my pathetic generation). Also, the girls are mostly just snobby diva's, and when you're not like the other dudes, you must be gay. Yep, they sure are open-minded. I play guitar instead of soccer, I actually have an interest in classic game systems like the N64 instead of CoD, and I love intelligent yet funny stuff, like Cracked. Anyway, even though I'm kinda lonely during classes, I still refuse to surrender to those jerks. You and your no-scopes can go f*ck yourselves, I prefer my Mario on the Dire, Dire Docks. I just hope to meet someone in my generation that shares my interests one day... Until then, f**k ALL OF YOU, BLINK-182 4 LIFE, AND ALL HEIL SCOTT PILGRIM!
Reply Hide All See All 3 RepliesWasn't that just an inspirational story, folks? But seriously though, don't be like those kids. Just don't.
In a few more years, you'll soon learn that it's OK for other people to like what they like and you to like what you like, without having to criticize them (or yourself) for it.
O boo hoo! They're all so ignorant! I'm so edgy and different because I like a hugely successful rock band! waah! grow up, just because someone likes something that's more popular than your interests doesn't make them a bad person. Did you even pay attention to the article you just read?
Sonny, when I was 15 I was so into SNES, action figures, RPGs, PC games, japanese fansubbed animes, and chatting about it with my good mates that I really didn't have time to care what anyone else was all that into! Other guys at my school were big into football (gaelic and soccer), fantasy football manager/teams, poker tournaments and pool/snooker/golf and didn't care about what I was into in the slightest. Others were into phones, weed, alcohol, sex, fashion, getting a job, starting businesses.... The list goes on. What was fun was being into cool stuff to the point of absolute obsession. And having all the free time and total lack of criticism from others to bloody well get on with doing it obsessively!! I hate being in my 20s now and everyone expecting me to have cured cancer when I'm actually on facebook and watching small windowed naruto shippuden episodes.
The picture of the girl with anime eyes is really hard to look at. It's like, an optical illusion or something.
ReplyHell, I walk around in jeans and a t-shirt and still get called a compete weirdo every time I open my mouth. Nothing wrong with not conforming. But if your personality is a bit beige, f**k it, run with it. I still don't understand how anyone could listen to Katy Perry or watch Twilight though. It's just substandard crap.
ReplyA-fuckin-men!! Except I'll still pick on people's tastes for fun, too. If they change them because of my insults then they're weak and pathetic but I still feel bad...
Anyways, no one has the exact same tastes in everything as anyone else. That's what makes us unique. Ok, I'm sure there are people with the exact same tastes in everything but that's fine. As long as you really enjoy it
Man did this give me flashbacks of highschool.
Replyany anti-conformity is like that peculiar form of atheism that behaves like a satellite orbiting its denial target.
ReplyYou're going to have to elaborate on that.
But. . .what if you're being who you are and you end up being very different?
ReplyThen they just call you "socially awkward."
Basically, i think that there is only one simple rule. Live, and let live. Tho its kinda true that some 'nonconformists' can be annoying when trying to explain OVER AND OVER why are they the way they are when no one really asked them to. Dude, if you enjoy pop, great keep poping; if you enjoy rock, great keep rocking, if you enjoy classical keep....dunno... classicing or something. Its not rocket science. I think the sole characteristic of a 'non-conformsit' (if you gonna use the term) is that they let everyone get on with their lives and want the same in return. Nothing more, nothing less. He can try and explain why his way of living MAY be (theoretically) better according to him), but everyone hates people who stubbornly KEEP nagging about how everyone but them is dumb.
ReplyAnd to add to that, I think people should also just try to be happy. Not what they THINK will make them happy, but make "being happy" their goal. It's hard to go wrong thinking that way. For almost all my life, I got things mixed up. I kept on thinking: "OK, what activity, what behavior, what location or material thing will make me happy??" And I tried and tried, always to be disappointed and sad.
It finally occured to me... that I need to just be happy. Yes, that's easier than it sounds (as it did take many, many years), but it was just a matter of being content and happy with what I had. All that I needed to be happy was right there, under my nose, all along.
It wasn't sitting on a shelf at a store, it wasn't in some fancy, neon city, nor at some amusement park.
It was there in my everyday life. There were already so many special things about life in general. I failed in that I was always thinking about what I didn't have, rather than the things I already did have.
I wrote it more eloquently before, but I hope this makes sense.
Meh. Anticonformity can be ok but only if you legitimately think that whatever normal people are doing is stupid. For example, I HATE pop music. Always have, always will. I also wear genes and t-shirts (albeit black ones). I have no need to conform to one thing or another. NEEDING to be in one or another catagory is stupid. Although in my opinion, the other side is stupid as Hell.
Reply Hide All See All 6 RepliesYou should look at number 3 again and reevaluate yourself.
How the heck do you wear genes?
I believe you mean "jeans." Or are you spelling it that way to be anticonformist?
@saddle your born into them
I saw some women wearing genes. I especially love when they flaunt their genes. Hubba! Hubba!
You broke science.
boohoo, someone was dumped by a goth/emo/hipster/...
ReplyMany people will claim that they "don't care what people think of them" but it's a very, very rare person that actually doesn't. Caring about the opinions of others is hardwired into our minds, and for good reason. An outside perspective that we listen to is very important, our own bias can get in the way of our reasoning sometimes.
ReplyI've noticed that, quite often, it's the people who most strongly say that they don't care are the ones who care the most.
This article needs another list item-- "nonconformist" types can be real bullies sometimes. Sure, it's wrong to pick on the goth kid, but it's equally wrong to give someone an angry tirade for liking Nickleback or wearing Abercrombie and Fitch. Tolerance should go both ways, whether its the majority tolerating the minority or the other way around. Hateful behavior is hateful behavior, period.
Reply Hide All See All 3 RepliesQuite often though, it's a bit more complex than that. Many of them were already bullied by others, so they in turn responded to such bullying with bullying of their own. While it's not justifiable, it's still a reaction to bullying as opposed to bullying others just because one can, or just because one is a smug, spoiled, rich, etc., a-hole.
Quite often though, it's a bit more complex than that. Many of them were already bullied by others, so they in turn responded to such bullying with bullying of their own. While it's not justifiable, it's still a reaction to bullying as opposed to bullying others just because one can, or just because one is a smug, spoiled, rich, etc., individual.
Quite often though, it's a bit more complex than that. Many of them were already bullied by others, so they in turn responded to such bullying with bullying of their own. While it's not justifiable, it's still a reaction to bullying as opposed to bullying others just because one can, or just because one is a smug, spoiled, rich, etc., individual.
Good points, especially about the anti-Twilight people. These same kind of people can be found on the Hulu comment section for any TV show. They watch the show and then spend huge amounts of time whining about how bad it is. To me, these people seem much sillier than fans who post about how great a show is or make fan art or write fan fiction. At least fans are obsessing over something they enjoy. Sure, they're wasting time they could be spending on more productive things, but it's no worse than watching sports or playing video games.
ReplyAnti-fans, on the other hand, are letting the things they hate take up huge amounts of space in their heads. That never made sense to me. If you hate something so much, why not just ignore it? That's what I do with Twilight. I watched the first movie and thought it was ok, watched the second one and hated it, and don't intend to watch any of the other movies or read the books. Life's way too short to watch bad movies or read boring books such so I can whine about them.
"If you hate something so much, why not just ignore it?"
Well...because there are plenty of things about Twilight that simply don't fall under "it's just entertainment!"
I love the emo/goth people that say they are different when other people question their looks. "You are just mad because I look different."
ReplyNo actually you look almost exactly like every other emo/goth around. You would be more of an individual if hide half of your features with black hair, tattoos and piercings...
Where I used to live, the goths freaking hate emos. I'm sure there's some irony in there somewhere.
What's really amusing (and annoying) is when goths and others who go out of their way to look different try to act as if they're ostracized and discriminated against in the same way that racial minorities are. Unlike them, I was born in the race I have, and I can't just put it on or take it off, like tons of eyeliner.
No matter how much of a non-conformist you think you are, you're always conforming to something. No matter how much of a conformist you are, you still have moments where you don't conform.
ReplyThere's a difference between "Noncomformity", "Anticonformity" and "Comformity".
Anti-conformity is where you deliberately go against conformity by doing something edgy or opposite.
Conformity is where you conform to what the majority is doing or what's in.
Nonconformity is when you do whatever you wish without thinking about going with or against something.
Christina is a Twilight fag.
Reply Hide All See All 3 RepliesThe conclusion you came to after she said "twilight is great," right?
Says the guy whose name I misread as MACRODIDLO
I actually got a good laugh from your comment. After reading this two page article that's what you came up with?
Haha!
Good article
ReplyNUmber 3 has always ben the thing I found funniest about the various sub cultures. Something about saying "I'm going to be a non conformist by joining these other non conformists and making up our own rules to conform to" is just so incredibly funny to me.
ReplyI remember trying to be goth, back in the early 2000s, and being told I wasn't sad enough. I was too optimistic to be goth, and I was too different to be popular. It was actually the best thing that ever happened, because I learned to be at ease with who I was and not who others thought I should be.
ReplyIn summation, it's okay if you have a period where you want to be anti-conformist, or conformist, or whatever they want to call it, as long as in the end you grow the hell up and become your own person. We're all teenagers at one time or another, right? And what do teenagers excel at? Making stupid choices and learning from them.
ohhh... i think you're confused on the whole thing.... they weren't trying to get you to be MORE GOTH.. all they were doing was trying to make you from a goth into an emo. sadly, there is a difference. haha see what i did there? :P
no
I want to be like others. In a way. I want to be like those American others, while I live in pretty eastern Europe.
ReplySo, I end up being completely different from them.
What am I doing wrong?
you're not american lol