I Write Letters As Santa Claus: This Is My Crazy Job

Sharon did let us in on a little secret: Having a sibling die apparently guarantees you a spot on the nice list. "After a devastating loss like that, they need some kind words, and when we tell them they're on the nice list, a little good news can go a long way. It's not much, but it's something good in their lives at a time like that."

Hey, there's a reason suicide peaks around the Yuletide season, and we're not even done yet. "Some orphanages and foster homes pay for this service as something nice for the children. And they ask for parents. A few years, I answered letters that pleaded for parents." Yep, we're diving into a Russian nesting doll of horrible here.

"About five years ago, I got [what] turned out to be a letter that several other writers couldn't answer. I called my boss and he said the buck stopped with me, and when I read it, I understood why. He wanted [his] parents -- who had 'hit him' -- back for Christmas." Several other writers at the company tried and failed to craft a proper response. What do you even say to a kid in that situation? Santa can't call an abused child's estranged parents garbage people, however correct that might be.

"What we settled on was saying that his mother and father had to work on their emotions and actions themselves, but in a way a seven-year-old can understand. You can't promise them back, and you can't promise a new, more loving family. What you can say is that adults need to work on it themselves, but Santa will do everything he can to make it a better Christmas. For that letter, we actually called his foster home and asked what he'd be getting so that we would know that we wouldn't lie with that. That led to a conversation with the foster parent about what really happened. It was ten times ... darker than what the child said in the letter, but we were told he was a sweet boy who only wanted love."

A significant number of children seem to think that Santa can raise the dead. We're not really sure how that rumor got started (to us, he was always just the fat dude who broke into houses with a bag full of toys). But Sharon deals with a lot of requests for resurrections. "I've had requests to bring grandma and grandpa back to life, like Santa can reverse death. For them, we give a 'We can't bring them back, but if you remember them, then they're never truly gone,' which is a really sweet thing to say that parents have complimented us on before."

A lot of kids ask Santa to give them a baby brother or sister (and we desperately hope they simply don't know how that whole process works yet). Sharon had one story that gave us hope for the future of race relations in America: "The best I got was a letter from a five-year-old who stipulated 'White or black is fine,' but just 'please make them like wrestling.' Which was amazing."

Sharon's company goes a step further in the name of Santa authenticity and spies on the kids. Wait, it's less creepy than it sounds! She and her co-workers communicate with parents and guardians via email to make sure they lock in a couple of personal details about the kid, so as to maintain the illusion of Santa's omniscience.

"What we'll also do is ask the parents for something personal we can write as Santa, so they'll think 'How could he have known that?' Usually it's an incident at school, like they got into a fight or a detention. And then we say, 'I saw your fight with Tim Johnson. I'm disappointed in you, but I've seen all the good things you've done through the year.' Recently, we've been having to say, 'My elf I sent to your house has told me ...' because of how popular Elf on the Shelf is."

But those stories aren't all as mundane as a fight with Tim Johnson, who knows damn well what he did. "The worst story is still from this family in Indiana about ten years ago. We asked for any personal stories to make it more genuine, and they told us how their child drowned two of his pet mice. We asked, 'Oh, by accident?' but they didn't answer that and went to a different story. We didn't think Santa would condone small animal torture and murder, so we had to ask for another story. I was stuck with writing him a letter on how he would be on the good list, and I worded one of my sentences, 'I'm not pleased at how you treat others who are perhaps smaller and weaker than you,' but that's as far as I went. Well, no. I left it open as to if he was on the naughty or nice list. I hope he got the message."

Now, that proto-serial-killer's parents didn't ask that their kid be put on the naughty list. But that is something parents can request from Sharon's company. They only seem to do it for really dumb reasons, though. "It only happens a few times a year, but I do need to write letters informing them that they're on the 'naughty list.' It's incredibly mean. Like the child who threw their brother down the stairs was still going on the nice list, but some of the 'naughty' children didn't help with chores, or simply forgot to do something and their parents were doing this to them."

Wow. We know who's going on the real naughty list. And by that, we mean straight to Hell.

"Around nine or ten, you can tell from how they write that it's almost over. [The average age is 8.8.] I've had children up until the tweens write me, but that's the farthest it's gone. When they start to say 'I didn't get what I asked you for last year, but my parents got me them,' they're starting to think it out."

Sometimes Sharon gets straight-up breakup letters from children. "I've gotten angry letters from children [that] their parents obviously didn't screen. The first angry letter I got was from a child who said, 'You used the same wrapping paper as my mom! Mom, why did you do this?' because they thought the letter was going back to her ... instead of someone like me. Last year, I got a letter from a child who said, 'My parents are making me write this, but I know you aren't real. Last Christmas, a box from you had a receipt with my Dad's name and credit card number on it.'"

And some kids decide the whole Santa thing deserves more investigation. "I also get the science class children who send me numbers of flight times and how much night there is on December 24 and 25, and they say, 'It doesn't make sense!' And every year, children go through the same numbers and the same theories and write about it. Some look like they're conversations they had, and are pleading for me to give a rational answer. Sometimes I get their theories, too. I liked the girl who once asked me if I sneak in with their relatives during Thanksgiving and hide out in their house until Christmas to deliver gifts." Somehow, that makes it even creepier than merely sliding down your chimney like a snake.

"Usually, we're supposed to say 'It's a secret' or 'I slow down time,' and more recently, 'I have helpers all over.' Something they can't easily go on. And they'll cling to it."

It's debatable whether or not lying to kids about Santa is good for them in the long run. Psychiatrists suggest it can erode trust in parents once found out. But it's not Sharon's job to answer that question, or to back down when it's clear some St. Nicholas Truther has stumbled onto reality. "There's not much I can say when they're that close. As a rule, we can't say, 'You got us, he isn't real,' but we can nudge them into the idea [that] 'Santa' giving things to people who behave is worth it. I'll say, 'Even if you don't believe in me, always remember that good behavior brings good things to you and others.' Yeah, it's corny, but it softens the blow a bit."

The internet age has not been great for Sharon's company. They receive fewer letters from kids now, and the letters they do receive are more likely to be skeptical. "Older children who still believe have said they've asked people online. They've never told me how it went, but if you look at a site and see the comments underneath, and now imagine that they're asking if Santa is real, you can imagine how mean some comments must be." Knowing internet commenters, those kids are lucky if they're only told that Santa is a lie, and not inundated with a 6,000-word essay on how he's ideologically a Nazi.

"We had a consultant come in and show us a few, and children were sworn at, and told to eat 'crap' (except it's not 'crap'). Every time, they were told they were stupid." Sharon hasn't yet received a letter from a kid asking why strangers on the internet said Santa wasn't real, but she's prepared a response for that inevitability. "'All of those people are on the naughty list, and feel so bad that they're on the naughty list that they do this to others to feel better.' It's not that far from the truth, is it?"

It's the truest damn thing we've ever heard, Sharon. You go on and preach.

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