For most people, though, the part that probably inspires fear and/or muffled snickers around the office is the idea that someone could totally immerse themselves in the BDSM lifestyle. The people we're talking about today wear some of the gear all the time and may have BDSM-related decorations on their walls. If you don't find it weird that some people like a little slap on the ass now and then, you probably still draw the line here. "Why in the hell would you need to be tied up and smacked with a riding crop every waking hour? Isn't that a full-blown mental illness at that point? "
But at that point it's not about a kink, but an emotional bond. "Most of the time, [BDSM] slavery seems to play into CNC (consensual-non-consent) fetishes," says Valleycat, "which is where someone will consent to allowing someone else to do anything they want to them. On the surface, it can sound pretty terrifying but CNC tends not to be something people take lightly, everybody involved needs to have absolute trust in each other so that nobody ends up with any permanent damage. It's not something you would do with just anybody."
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This isn't really a "first date" kinda thing.
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