The incidents that most clearly need mod response come when a "dom" pressures a "sub" into real-life action, apparently against their will. For example, one time, we had two users in a room talking about their kinks. The female user revealed that she had a humiliation fetish and wanted to test her limits, which eventually progressed to the dom asking her to smear peanut butter on her genitals and anus and get her dog to lick it off. The user said no, and the dom kept pushing her, weakening her resolve. It went far enough to cross the line, so I warned the user and banned the dom.
The reason I was alerted to the private chat? The system flagged the use of the words "peanut butter." That's how common this particular situation is.
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"How about I put this on a sandwich while you concentrate on staying the hell away from my pets instead?"
Some people think they can get others to do their bidding through verbal tricks -- statements like "You will feel proud that I wanted to work with you" or "My words make more sense than others, and you wish to pursue them," as if they're Boner Jedi. We call this sort of thing "neurolinguistics programming" or hypnosis. Of course, outside experts would be quick to tell you that this kind of hypnosis is not a real thing, but we stop it when we can. If we don't, people will come to us later, fully convinced that they've been mind-hacked and demanding to know why we didn't step in.