Orgasms. I invented them when I was 12. I was alone in the shower, my bar of Irish Spring was looking really good, I was warm, damp, and feeling adventurous. It was magical and only slightly shameful, the way I insist on all my orgasms being to this very day. Later I found out other people had stolen my idea before I could monetize it, but that's OK. I'm a giver.
Even later in life, I discovered something most unusual, and that was that not everyone orgasms the same way. Some people use Zest! And yet others eschew a soapy left hand thrust deep in a crack altogether and have discovered bizarre new ways of orgasming that not only don't involve hands, but don't even involve genitals. Or, well, not exactly.
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The idea of being paralyzed is unappealing for any number of reasons, not the least of which is the potential to be saddled with a homicidal helper monkey as a result. I don't give a shit if no one read my article on helper monkeys, you need to be aware of what's going on in the world. But beyond all the obvious downsides to being paralyzed, one that must clearly be a horrible adjustment is how it affects your sex life. Depending on the nature of your paralysis, it could make sex extremely difficult or literally impossible.
Rafe Biggs was left paralyzed from the neck down after an accident that resulted in a broken neck. With no feeling at all below his waist, he was sure his sex life was over, something that has to be terribly frustrating to someone with a still functional mind and access to boobs. For a year after his accident, he suffered through trying to adapt to a new life devoid of release, until one day his girlfriend gave him a thumb job.
Gonna thumb you so good, baby.
Why was Rafe's girlfriend sucking his thumb? Dude broke his neck, just go with it. Point is, he was able to experience an orgasm as a result of the stimulation and at the same time ensure that no one will ever try to shake his hand again.
The phenomenon, called transfer orgasm, is a result of neural plasticity and the brain's attempts to "rewire" itself to compensate for physical changes, and it has been recorded in paralyzed patients before. Rafe himself refers to his thumb as his surrogate penis, which is just so off-putting, but good for him nonetheless.
People say the brain is the biggest sex organ, and those people are usually stuck up and totally unaware of a series of circus-themed videos I own that disprove that foolish claim explicitly and terrifyingly. We can give those people a little credit, however, insofar as you do tend to need some kind of brain stimulation for the physical stimulation to follow. For instance, I can't get turned on at all until someone verbally berates me to the point of tears. It's just my thing.
For other people, the brain is the be all and end all of getting busy. Which is to say things like nudity and a partner are totally irrelevant. Spontaneous orgasm can, in fact, be thought into existence. Rutgers University has studied the concept of spontaneous orgasms with women strapped into MRI machines who are supposed to keep still but apparently have a bad habit of thrashing around like a fish having an orgasm as scientists try to watch their brain activity while they get themselves off just by virtue of wanting to get off, no external stimulation required. This is Professor X level wanking. This is the kind of shit even Sting can't do, and he can apparently start 1920s automobiles just by orgasming in the driver's seat (citation needed).
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"Roxanne! You don't have to even take your pants off! I can mind bone you!"
Research from as far back as the 1800s has indicated that women, and some men, are capable of fantasizing themselves into a state of physical orgasm. Varying research indicated that anywhere between 2 percent and 64 percent of people were capable of doing this, and brain scans show that the brain lights up in areas that correspond to physical stimulation of erogenous zones in these cases. So as far as your brain is concerned, it's just as good as the real thing, which must be really depressing for anyone those people sleep with.
Search through YouTube and you'll run afoul of stuff like ASMR, which stands for "autonomous sensory meridian response." What's that mean? It means there are videos of people, usually women, blowing into their microphones or whispering real quiet like that and apparently just cause themselves and others to orgasm without any additional stimulation. It doesn't work for everyone, of course, and some people just find it relaxing, but it's out there, and people claim it does the job for them.