This is the backbone of any healthy relationship, and damned if we'll listen to a single word otherwise.
But not all states see that clear and indisputable logic. Their reasoning is that making it easy to get out diminishes marriage "as an institution." So if you want out, you have to convince a judge you have a good reason. Not simply "We don't love each other anymore" or "We grew apart" or "Seriously, his favorite pilot is Chip? Fuck Chip!" That's not good enough.
You have to prove your spouse did something wrong, or else you're stuck. We're talking about stuff like abuse, infidelity, insanity, "habitual cruel and inhuman treatment," or even "incurable impotence." And the criteria vary from place to place. My state's legislature recently tried to pass a bill that would make domestic violence a ground for divorce, because it somehow wasn't already. And it failed!
"'Til death do us part" wasn't meant as a challenge, assholes.
Your testimony alone is not enough to prove these grounds; you need corroborating evidence. Don't have it? Well, the bailiff hands you a copy of Stephen Stills' "Love The One You're With" and points you toward the door.
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