And one just plain wouldn't accept it: "They were not having it, yet went all the way to a third date," Mann says. "We chatted through OK Cupid, texted, met up for coffee. I showed them my IDs, they seemed to accept it and we went about learning about each other, having a nice time. Second date was more of the same. Third date was where it went off the rails ... Before we even got to put our order in, they started in on my name and asking why would I continually lie to them. They told me that they were thinking up reasons -- that I was in witness protection, was cheating on a spouse, didn't trust them, was grooming them to take money, was a serial killer or human trafficker that would get rid of them after I'd had my fun. They let loose with a barrage of reasons and each new one that escaped raised the volume of their voice until they were screaming at me."
"So ... 'no' to coffee and dessert?"
That's not the only hiccup:
"Online registrations are canceled within minutes, tables at restaurants are canceled and given to others (makes surprise dates for partners a hassle), and renting a car is even worse," Mann says. One time, "I reserved and rented a car through Enterprise online. Confirmation email and everything in hand. I thought going through Costco Travel would eliminate the usual rigmarole, but I was wrong. A few days before [my trip], I called Enterprise to verify the reservation. The woman on the other side was nice about it, but those familiar words stating that they had canceled the reservation because they thought it was a joke came."