According to Robbins, the fact that you're a dumb baby who waits around until you feel like saving your marriage isn't your fault. It's your dumb baby brain: "The way that our brains are wired, and the fact about human beings, is that we're not designed to do things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult. Our brains are designed to protect us from those things." Now, the brain is a pretty complex pile of meat. What are Mel Robbins' qualifications for making such a sweeping statement about it? Well, she's a CNN commentator, life coach, author, and "motivational speaker" -- which, using Mel's own definition, translates into "bullshit speaker."
Despite having no background in psychology or neuroscience, is our plucky, truth-droppin' life coach onto something with the hypothesis that "Our minds are designed to stop you at all costs from doing anything that might hurt you?" Well ... no. Psychology and neuroscience has shown that stress actually increases your likelihood of making a risky decision, as we seem to optimize seeking reward despite the risks. There are also many studies that explore the motivation circuit in the brain, which includes studying the cues that "mobilize the organism to prepare for action." This sounds like fancy science talk for "stressors can motivate us to act."
Mel also accuses you of "Only feel[ing] motivated to do the things that are easy." But a psychological study found that people typically front-load more difficult tasks, or "pre-crastinate," choosing the satisfaction of quickly reaching a subgoal over saving themselves effort. There have even been studies imaging the areas of the brain that are active when subjects receive a compelling motivation to do some unpleasant physical tasks: ca$h money.
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Or as the kids call it, "fat stacks." Kids call it that, right?