Which explains why hurricane parties are a thing, and why you can find all of your hurricane party decorating needs on Pinterest. No other natural disaster comes with such a slow build and a festive atmosphere. And when hurricane season is built into your seasonal routine -- my little sister was named after a hurricane that hit Texas 19 years before she was born -- you just roll with them as best you can.
So I wasn't surprised that most of my friends, family, and childhood friends' families didn't evacuate when they knew Harvey was coming. It is very hard to get on a bus going to a place you don't know for a thing that may or may not ever come. And Houston? Forget it. If you thought Houston should have been 100 percent evacuated, you've probably never been there. During Hurricane Rita, there were 100 deaths in Texas, 60 of which were related to Houston's disastrous attempt to evacuate three million residents all at once.
I also wasn't surprised that Texans went nuts helping each other out once the waters started rising. Not because Texans are uniquely neighborly compared to other humans in distress, but because we're uniquely good at self-publicity. It's kind of our thing. That said, if you have South Texas friends on your Facebook timeline like I do, you know there were convoys of volunteers ready with food and water before Harvey was even done with its dirty business. Behind every dramatic rescue moment that went viral, there were thousands that no one saw, and for every tone-deaf Joel Osteen, there were hundreds of churches (and synagogues, and mosques!) mobilizing to provide immediate relief. I said there wasn't a silver lining to Harvey, but that's actually not true; after a summer of awful news, the storm reminded us that people are good.
The problem is that being good in dangerous moments isn't going fix next season's weather. And this season's hurricane victims are only facing the beginning of their problems.