It's easy to dismiss something that wasn't made for you as having no value, while forgetting that countless people think the same thing about all the stuff that you like. Your timeless song that helped you through that junior high breakup was some out-of-touch adult's proof that music was objectively better when they were getting dumped by the cutie from English. Your favorite video game is the crux of someone's rant about how games are a useless medium for immature adults. You know, the kind of idiotic sweeping generalizations that make us want to scream because they contribute nothing to anything, except for when we're insightfully making them.

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Complaints about pop culture way outside of the complainer's demographic are most common with stuff marketed at teens because, well, a lot of it is fucking terrible. I read The Maze Runner, and the author belongs in word jail. But one of the shittiest things an adult can do to a teenager is mock their interests just because what's new and novel to the teen is old and boring to them. Maybe it's objectively bad, or maybe it just doesn't push the right buttons in your brain. But unless it's fascist propaganda, like the new YA hit The Fault In Our Cucks, it's really none of your business. That horror trailer you saw and derided as being the same crap you've seen for decades is new to someone, somewhere. Every horror flick is some teen's first exposure to slasher tropes or the evil twin twist that they'll half pay attention to while trying to grope another teen's genitals in the back row of the theater. They don't care how unoriginal you think Amityville: The Awakening looks if will get them a couple of good jump scares and a chance to awkwardly finger without their parents walking in.

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I find musicals too relentlessly cheery and upbeat and stuck in the past, and while everyone is tapping their toes I think "Lyrics are a terrible way to dispense information! Just sit down and have a conversation instead of singing about how you're angry for five minutes! And why are you holding up LA traffic?" But the musical lovers in my life think that songs are a far more powerful way to express emotion than some boring old monologue, especially if an upbeat song is being used to dull the impact of dark subject matter. We just interpret stories, and the emotions they're trying to instill, in different ways.

Knowing where the other person is coming from is a better long-term solution than rolling your eyes and grumbling every time they go on about how much they love Grease. But the real trick is to do it with fads that are mocked as much as they're loved. I made fun of Twilight as much as the next guy, and that's because they're written like Stephenie Meyer is trying to devolve the English language. But if you understand why they sold 100 million books and produced five blockbuster movies, you'll understand more about the world you live in than if you dismiss it as some dumb fantasy for people with bad taste.

Note that determining why something is likable doesn't mean that you have to start liking it yourself. I get the appeal of trashy reality shows, but if you expect me to sit down and watch one then there'd better be a case of beer on the table. I read Fifty Shades Of Grey and it killed my sex drive for six weeks. But tens of millions of people masturbated and then disagreed with me, and we all have to live in the same world. So if you start turning pop culture tastes into battle lines ...

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... you're the one who ends up looking dumb for being unable to take a minute to figure out what the deal is.

But apparently that's "a clear violation of human rights," and so a lot of pop culture is made for those people. Police procedurals and their ilk, for example, are mostly half-watched by people who are making dinner or cleaning or going through their email. Their repetitive banality is their strength -- you're not going to miss a shocking twist or a brilliant piece of writing if you need to run the vacuum cleaner for a couple minutes.

Again, this doesn't mean that they're beyond reproach! You can't criticize Law And Order for being repetitive, because that's its job, but you can call it out for ripping plots from the headlines like vultures who washed out of screenwriting programs, for distorting our view of crime by over-representing women as both victims and criminals, for how it mishandles rape and sexual assault for cheap entertainment value, and for how their GamerGate-inspired episode is so moronic it single-handedly kept aliens from contacting us.

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But when you're really into pop culture it's easy to forget that not everyone else is, and that some people just want something mindless to collapse in front of after an exhausting day at a stressful job. Sometimes you just want to watch a bad guy get caught or a patient get saved while you fall asleep. There are good procedurals and stupid ones, and you can't consider them all useless just because you don't need that particular stress valve.

This question doesn't only apply to people on the scale of "Can talk to you about Carl Th. Dreyer for five hours" and "Refuses to watch anything other than CSI and Hee Haw reruns." Other contexts are important too. That new pop hit with the insipid lyrics? You're not supposed to lie in a dark room and thoughtfully take in every word like it's Nick Drake; it's background music for bars, or something to occupy your mind while you're driving to work. If you like it in other contexts, cool, but don't complain about music because it doesn't work in a way it was never designed for.

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Those are people complaining about dubstep while listening to it in the middle of the afternoon at home by themselves, even though it's mostly made for dancing while on MDMA in an abandoned warehouse. Maybe that still sounds terrible to you, but kids on drugs need music to dance to as much as you need music to balance your budget to. You wouldn't fuck to the Wiggles or cue up the Smiths for a fun road trip or play Swans at your family BBQ. Think about what a song or a show offers the consumer, whether it's stress release, relaxation, a jolt of energy, or a way to vent negative emotions. Then you can passionately argue that third wave avant-garde black metal is objectively superior to new blackgaze Viking.

Speaking of reboots, no, the Transformers reboot, the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles reboot, and all the others didn't "rape" your childhood. They didn't even buy you a drink. The 2014 Turtles movie was nominated for five Golden Raspberries and three Nickelodeon Kids' Choice Awards. Guess which the studio cared about? Studios need to bring in money so they can afford to release cult hits that risk bombing at the box office. Getting mad at the new TMNT movies for existing is like getting mad at someone for having a job.

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You should also consider what a movie is trying to accomplish in terms of tone, something Neil deGrasse Tyson fails at every time he goes on Twitter.

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Neil, are you telling me that a movie set in a universe where magic exists is unrealistic? TIE Fighters make noise in the vacuum of space because TIE Fighters sound fucking rad. Pointing out that Star Wars doesn't follow the laws of nature is like hearing a joke and responding with "Since when could horses talk? And how would it even fit through the bar door? Don't waste my time with your nonsense, sir!" You sound like an alien who was banished from their home planet for being a huge buzzkill.

If a movie purports to be rigorously researched, then it's fair game. Tyson also nerded out on Gravity, but since its whole shtick was being technically accurate it's reasonable to call out the moments when it wasn't.

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Movies that claim to be historically accurate but are full of lies is an entire genre at Cracked. But there's a difference between saying "Hey, wait, The Imitation Game, a supposedly serious drama, turned a real, decent person into an idiotic villain, and completely re-wrote history in the process" and "Hey, wait, The Imitition Game, the porn parody based on the hit film, is using sex toys that didn't exist in the '40s! The immersion is ruined!"

You can criticize a movie based on how it presents itself to you, but if you start applying a different set of rules so you can run up the score in a game that only you're playing, you've become a pedantic jerk who loves to ruin things that other people enjoy. Don't say "Superman couldn't really fly, this movie is dumb! Why can't you see that, comic book fans?" Point out that Superman was an idiot because he chose to fly to the wrong places.