Or at least, that's how I do it -- frantically sucking up information, never digesting it. In the car on the way to work? Put on a podcast. On the treadmill? Put in earbuds and music. Waiting for food at a restaurant? Scroll through Facebook. When the lights go out and you're under the covers, you're giving your brain its first chance to actually process all of the big stuff that's weighing on you. The first moment with no input coming in.
Remember, your brain is designed to do one thing only: help you survive. You dwell on conflict and embarrassing situations because you are, whether you know it or not, training yourself how to do it better in the future. But that's a two-step process -- the awful thing occurs, then you have to work through what you did wrong and why. The second part can be deeply unpleasant, so we tend to avoid it. Until, that is, we're lying there in the darkness, alone with our thoughts. The brain is not going to let you rest until this important work of digestion has been done.
Now, sleep experts always say you need quiet time before bed to wind down. They say it's because you need to slowly get into relaxation mode instead of trying to shift gears abruptly. This is where I, an internet comedian and dong horror author, disagree with those professional experts who study nothing but this every single day of their lives. I don't think that's it at all -- I think you just need quiet time during the day, whenever it is, to work through stuff. I mean, it's well known that humans need silence. Some hospitals started mandating a quiet period in the afternoon because the constant noise and bustle was killing patients and staff alike. Note that they turn down the lights, too -- darkness, as Shakespeare once said, is the silence of the eyeballs.
"And sex, the pizza of the genitals."