According to one recent poll, a whopping 73 percent of single Americans in their 20s believe in the idea of a soul mate, and they consider finding that person more important than any other aspect of a relationship, including emotional connection, financial security, and moral stance on beards. And before the guys reading this skip to the next list item, assuming that it must be purely a lady phenomenon, 63 percent of the men polled think that the perfect person is out there for them and expect to find them one day. So suck it, wussy boys.
But the problem with soul mate relationships is that they never live up to the golden, glowing statue we've built in our heads. While couples are obviously capable of meeting and instantly having an intense connection, eventually problems are going to arise in the relationship, mostly because keeping intensity going for long periods of time is exhausting. It's easy to think, "If we were truly soul mates, we wouldn't have any problems at all. This person is obviously a product of Satan's mocking design." At that point, individuals who believe in soul mates are more likely to check out.
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"Did he laugh at that Adam Sandler trailer? Oh, fuck this."
With this in mind, it should come as no surprise that people who believe in soul mates are statistically more likely to get divorced. The idea that you will "just know" when your soul mate shows up, or even that finding the perfect person is possible, means you might think there is no need to work at your relationship. If you are destined to be together, everything will just figure itself out, and if it doesn't, all you need to do is leave and find your real soul mate. This is like throwing your toddler off of a cruise ship, and if he doesn't make it back to shore, he was never destined to swim -- but that's OK, because you can always just hump up a new one.