Somewhere along the line, what you're actually doing in the world becomes more important than any weird grudges, and dropping them becomes a whole lot easier than letting them guide your decisions. Which leads right into ...
You Cut Down on Recreation to Avoid Stress
When you're a kid, the single most important thing to you is your time off. Whether you're at work or school, you spend the entire time fantasizing about what you're going to do when you're done: touch a boob, play StarCraft, drink light beer, set something on fire on the beach, hide in the bushes when the cops show up -- whatever. But at a certain point, you're going to have the opportunity to either devote most of your energy (not time, since it's easy to be stuck in a 60-hour-a-week job that you don't care about. When I say "energy," I mean your opinions and values and thinkin' time) to your career, or to your recreation time. And then you're going to realize that if you focus your energy on the latter, you're literally going to eat your own arms off in frustration. Literally. Eat your own arms. Off.
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Right down to the bone.
In order to be happy and respect yourself, you need two things. First, you need to do something that matters to other people, and second, you have to be trying to get better at it -- trying to improve yourself. Sports, TV, and even video games do a great job of imitating the latter, but they can't create the former -- which is why every "fan club," every online video game guild, and every casual weekend sports team will eventually dissolve into petty bickering and drama. Their brains are looking for some kind of problem to solve, some imperfection to correct. This explains why so many Internet controversies are about literally nothing: people need a crusade and a purpose, and if they don't have one in real life because their lives are spent dicking around, they'll just fucking make one up out of thin air.
That's why the Internet, as a whole, is known for getting outraged about stupid shit. Most people who use the Internet have their priorities in order, but the most vocal, loudest people here don't. The fact that they spend so much of their energy on their hobbies and recreation time is, paradoxically, why they hate everything so much. But this doesn't happen to most people. It gets nipped in the bud right around the time ...