6 New Kinds of Anxiety the Internet Gave Us

#3. The Confusion/Disgust/Arousal of Stumbling Upon Someone Else's Sexual Fetish


There are a few porn milestones every person has in their life. There's the first time they were aroused by a photo or movie (there's a reason Princess Leia's slave girl outfit brings back powerful memories for Comic Con goers). There's the first time they sought out full-on pornography and realized how plentiful it was. And then there's the first time they stumbled upon a fetish that terrified them ... and realized how incredibly common it was. Now, to be clear, I'm not talking about mild little tweaks to conventional porn -- a hot woman in tight leather can be a turn-on whether or not you have a "leather fetish." I'm talking about the first time you saw completely non-sexual, fully clothed media that clearly serve as someone else's wank material.

I specifically remember this one for me -- it was 1999, and I was searching Lycos for local volunteer opportunities when I stumbled across a massive library of sex videos. I clicked on one called "Sexy Catfight -- Liz vs. Vixxen!" and expected to see two mostly naked women "fighting" by pulling each other's clothes off until they finally succumbed to their own lust and started kissing. You know, a cat fight. What I saw instead were two fully clothed, muscular, linebacker-type women pretending to punch each other in the gut for several minutes until one of them held the other down, sat on her chest, and forced her to surrender the match. Viewers had rated it four stars out of five. It was so weird for me because it had all of the rhythm of porn -- you could see which parts were buildup and which part served as the "money shot" (the submission at the end). I knew exactly which parts a gut-punch fetishist was supposed to masturbate to.

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"Time out! Sir, we're going to have to ask you to put your pants on and leave."

Of course, by now the market has evolved to the point that each fetish has its own sprawling community, full of subgenres, and you can't Google brownie recipes without running into five of them. You can take what you think is the weirdest possible fetish -- say, vorarephilia (getting sexually aroused at the thought of a large predator eating you) -- and find that on the Internet, this is so common that it's referred to by slang shorthand ("vore"). You can find one gallery after another after another after another after another -- and that's just on DeviantArt, and just the first two pages of a Google search. That's not even touching on places like Vore.net, where they start breaking it down into subgenres like "anal vore" (it's not what you think!).

Of course, any Internet user is numb to it at this point -- we can stumble across YouTube videos of fully clothed people popping balloons or stepping on brake pedals and be completely unsurprised by both the high hit counts and the commenters talking about how hard they climaxed while watching.

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"Fuck yeah. Get the whole family in there and wash that dog. Wash him so clean. Mmmm."

What Was It Like Before the Internet?

I am old enough to be familiar with how porn worked in the pre-Internet era -- it was an almost entirely subscription magazine and Cinemax-based medium, unless you were brave enough to wander into the video store and march up to the counter with Bram Stoker's Crackula in hand, in full view of your neighbors, classmates, and church pastor. Due to economics or the conventions of the genre, they always kept fetishes within a few inches of the mainstream -- they might throw a bone to spanking fetishists, but it would be a beautiful naked woman spanking another beautiful naked woman. Anyone could enjoy it.

I can't imagine what a boon the Internet was for the weird fetish community -- how did these people even find each other before? It must have been like a glorious breath of fresh air to realize there were tens of thousands of other like-minded folk out there, enjoying the same weird boner. Good for them. I mean that.

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"Oh my God, you too? I thought I was the only one!"

And in the Future ...

Remember what I said about how eventually everybody will have forward-facing cameras on their body somewhere? Already the porn community is full of "creepshots" galleries where people secretly photograph women at the mall bending over, etc. There's going to come a point where you'll be at the dog park, slowly feeding a sausage to your St. Bernard, and you'll think, "Wait, is this somebody's fetish? Are they recording me right now so that people can wank to it later on DogGobblers.com?"

#2. The Dread of Stumbling into a Hornet's Nest

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I'm talking about when you suddenly realize, out of the blue, that some completely benign topic, or very mild joke, is the subject of someone else's bitter, ongoing conflict. We covered a whole bunch of these before -- for instance, you can't show up in a public forum asking about tipping at restaurants, declawing cats, or circumcision without finding that you have accidentally taken one side in a long-running war where passions run high and both sides have long since abandoned rational discussion.

A while back, I was asked if for our next redesign Cracked should go with a serif font, or sans. I had never heard either of those nonsense words in my life, but they included samples, and basically serif fonts look more old-fashioned and fancy and sans serif fonts look more modern and computery (a "serif" is the little horizontal bit that makes letters look like they're wearing tiny shoes and hats). But in order to research this, I anonymously asked a message board full of webmasters which one was the best, and that's when I realized that serif lovers were at war with sans fans. If you search around the Internet, you'll find passionate arguments like this and this and this and this and this going around and around on the subject. Then you have this exhaustively researched article referencing more than 50 goddamned scientific studies on the subject of which font is more readable. Then you can go buy a "Sans Serifs Suck" T-shirt:

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Hear me. This is important.

Hey, how many males reading this had to, in the last year, Google the phrase "rape culture" because you were accused of being part of it, yet had no idea what it was?

What Was It Like Before the Internet?

Sure, we've all been in some social situation where we accidentally touched on a sore subject (say, you innocently ask the childless couple if they intend to have kids, only to realize that they've been bitterly arguing over the subject for three straight years). But that's not the same as suddenly finding that you've accidentally taken a side in a bitter debate spanning multiple nations and languages that has advanced to the point that people on the other side have a snide nickname for your group ("Oh, great, here comes another Serif Monkey with sans in her vagina!")

I think the closest you could come in pre-Internet days was in realizing that your arbitrary purchase had made you part of a brand loyalty war (as Brockway mentioned here, classic car makes are practically the subject of a blood feud). I remember being a teenager and going to a car audio place to have a CD player installed, only to have the guy behind the counter get visibly angry that I had bought a Sony.

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"Get the fuck out of my store before I pour magma on your crotch!"

And in the Future ...

Regardless of where the technology goes, the trend is clearly moving in the direction of breaking down all walls between social networking and real life. And while today you might run into jackasses who insist on wearing their pet issue on their sleeve (or just a "Meat Is Murder!" T-shirt), I foresee a future where with one click of an app, people can see every single controversial opinion you hold pop up in a dialogue box on your chest. "Oh, this is the guy who supported Leno over Conan 10 years ago. I shall have no sex with this man!"

#1. The Shock of Instant, Unintentional Fame

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August, 2012. A random photo of a bunch of runners in a marathon is uploaded to Flickr. It is nothing more than one of probably 7 billion photos hosted on that site -- nothing remarkable or shocking or startling about it.

But one of the runners is looking directly at the camera and smiling in a very photogenic way, and somebody posts it to Reddit under the title "My friend calls him 'Ridiculously Photogenic Guy.'" That post gets an astounding 52,000 upvotes. Somebody tracks down the guy in the photo, Zeddie Little, who then does a Q-and-A on Reddit that gets 47,000 more upvotes and more than 8,000 questions or comments ... about that one random photo of him running.

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Hahaha! I get it!

He immediately becomes the subject of an incredibly popular meme. He gets covered by the mainstream press and is interviewed on Good Morning America. And the next week, everyone forgot about it and grabbed another random person and made him instantly famous.

For Little, it's no big deal in the grand scheme of things -- he likely didn't profit and doesn't appear to have been harmed by it, other than the fact that he'll still be getting recognized at parties as "Ridiculously Photogenic Guy" 10 years from now, even if he cures cancer. But then you combine this "instant fame" phenomenon with the "hornet's nest" element above, and you have a situation where any stupid thing said or done in view of the Internet now has the possibility of making you the worldwide Internet Villain of the Moment.

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"Boo! Boo to your fame!"

So, a couple of silly teenage girls make racist jokes in a YouTube video they thought no one would watch and it inexplicably explodes into millions of views and a nationwide shitstorm of death threats, until they have to be pulled out of school. A low-level employee at Microsoft posts a tweet mocking gamers complaining about their next console to his 1,600 followers, at which point it erupts into a backlash spanning 60 different websites and becomes a viral meme, and finally Microsoft has to issue an official apology. The employee might have been fired over it. And again, we'll all forget about it a few days later and pick another punching bag.

This isn't defending anything those people said or did -- it's just that it's so random. For instance, teenagers are saying ignorant things at a rate of several million per second. That's the point of youth -- you do stupid things so you can learn from them and become an adult (you don't think I wrote a "Eugenics never got a fair shot!" essay in high school? Come on, we all go through that phase). But only now do we have this process where we just grab one stupid person at random and feed them into the internet's outrage machine.

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Yeah, you should feel ashamed, you piece of shit.

What Was It Like Before the Internet?

It's true that unintentional fame or infamy has been a thing as long as mass media has been a thing. But once upon a time, it only happened due to your proximity to some extraordinary circumstance. Like Abraham Zapruder, the guy who happened to be holding the one video camera that captured the JFK assassination (he immediately sold the film for the modern equivalent of about $1.1 million, then was so traumatized by the aftermath that he never touched a camera again). Or Kato Kaelin, the random dude who happened to be staying at O.J. Simpson's guest house when Simpson was accused of murdering his ex-wife, and who became a celebrity during the sensational murder trial that followed, for reasons that to this day no one quite understands.

In other words, it used to be that you had to have some connection to an actual news story in order to get your 15 minutes of fame. Now, any random photo or thoughtless joke can fill your inbox with 10,000 death threats overnight.

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And this is even coming from "rational, mature" adults.

And in the Future ...

I've lost track of how many people have gotten fired over some Twitter dust-up (a week before this was written, two other people were fired over a dick joke overheard in a public place and a subsequent Twitter post about it). There's a new controversy like this every other day, and every time, people ask, "Why does anybody still share anything on Twitter? When will they learn?"

But they could ask the same thing about the girls saying stupid shit into a webcam and uploading it for the world to see, or the criminal dipshits who upload videos of their crimes to the Internet and promptly get arrested after the shortest investigation in history. It's like people can't not share, even when they know there's a good chance it will ruin them.

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"So constipated that my asshole is bleeding, but the bf wants 2 do anal. FML."

So will there be some point in the future where people say, "You know what? It's not worth it. I don't need the validation of hundreds of strangers if it means I can't speak my mind, or have to constantly worry that I'm going to be the subject of a witch hunt or go to jail. Not everybody needs to be famous, damn it!" And then maybe humanity will collectively withdraw from the spotlight, to appreciate walls and privacy once more? And realize that we don't stop existing just because we failed to document and publish every passing moment of our lives?

Eh, probably not.

For more wisdom from David Wong, check out How 'The Karate Kid' Ruined The Modern World and The 10 Most Important Things They Didn't Teach You In School, or watch his incredibly NSFW movie about penis monsters starring at least one Academy Award nominee.

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