Over 4 million Americans suffer from panic attacks, which means there are a few hundred million of you who have no idea what it's like. It's not like stage fright, it's not a general feeling of anxiety, it's not even that sense of dread you get when you realize you forgot to edit out the skill "Fartmaster" from your resume before hitting the "send" button.
I've suffered from debilitating panic attacks for half of my life. And now I'm going to tell you about them, because at the very least I deserve to make some money out of this terrible experience.
5They Can Start Anytime, Anywhere
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There isn't really any warning that you are going to start getting panic attacks. Sometimes they run in families, but that doesn't mean you are guaranteed to have them. My sister started getting them a few years before I did, and because she was younger than me and in middle school to boot, I just chalked her behavior up to her being a brat.
Adolescence: just the worst.
My first panic attack came in January of my senior year of high school. Looking back, you can see the obvious triggers, but it was just as likely that I could have gone through the whole day and been fine. Our English class was in the library listening to a special guest speaker: a Holocaust survivor. Obviously, she wasn't doing a stand-up routine. At the same time, my mom was in the hospital going through major surgery. I received a page from my dad telling me that she had just come around. And I think somewhere in my mind I must have realized that one day I would have to tell thousands of people that I was old enough to be a senior in high school when pagers were the hip new thing.
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We mostly used them to let someone know when we'd mailed them dick pics.
About five minutes after I got the page, I started freaking out. I felt like I was floating a foot or two above my body and had this overwhelming feeling that something really bad was happening. It felt like I wouldn't be able to take my next breath, even though I had started hyperventilating. I vaguely remember grabbing the hand of the person sitting next to me and asking them to get the teacher. Or I might have screamed it; I have no idea. The next thing I knew I was in a wheelchair being taken out to an ambulance while everyone stared at me.
For me, life will always be divided into two sections: everything before that day, and everything after.
4It's Like Suddenly Owning A Tiger
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For those who have never had a panic attack, here's a really easy way to understand it: Imagine waking up on your average morning. You're thinking about your day, maybe a bit stressed, maybe a bit sleepy, but it's a normal morning. You open up your bathroom door to go brush your teeth and there is a fucking tiger sitting there. Like an actual, 500-pound, big pointy teeth tiger. How would your body react? That's how my body reacts all the fucking time.
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OK, these guys are wizards.
The fight or flight response that kicks in when you are panicking can be anything from a little bit inconvenient to actually requiring medical intervention. You're lucky if all you get are a racing heartbeat, hyperventilation, and a cold sweat. That floating feeling I had during my first one is called derealization. Sometimes your muscles freeze up and you can't move; other times you find yourself in literal flight mode, running down the street. You might suddenly need the bathroom really badly. That's your body trying to shed weight so you can run away from the tiger easier, but in modern life it just adds the fear of shitting yourself in public to this already long list of things to worry about.
"I'll pick up the adult diapers right after I talk to Beth."
The average person might call an ambulance once or twice in their lifetime. I've called them dozens of times. And I don't want you to think I'm some hypochondriac who is taking away life-saving services from people who actually need them. Every single time I have called 911 or gone to the emergency room, I have absolutely 100 percent believed that I was dying. In my case, I always think I am having a heart attack; other people often think they are suffering a stroke or simply going insane. In my mind, I have been on the verge of death many times. It's like being a soldier under constant gunfire. And that's not as dramatic an analogy as you would think, because panic attacks can and do cause PTSD, which in turn makes you more likely to have a panic attack, leading to a vicious and scary-as-hell cycle.