There are people who manage to push back the whole "adulthood" thing until they're well into their 60s and retirement starts rolling in. There are people who are forced into it while they're still a child, because Joe Chill murdered their parents and they have sworn fetish gear-themed revenge. For some, it just sort of happens, and they wake up one day to notice that the whole "mortgage and kids" thing has crept up on them while they were busy partying.
Regardless of how and when you reach adulthood, chances are you'll find yourself hopelessly out of depth at several points of the process. Luckily, you're far from the only one to feel that way: We all go through certain steps as we first face the harsh realities of life as a responsible entity.
Here's a few of them!
5The Moment You Tell Your First Dad Joke
Dad jokes are to comedy what Michael Bay is to movies: The setup might be fine and innocent, but before long everyone is in pain and cringing, the Earth is on fire, and robot dinosaurs are eating everyone. They're so objectively, shamelessly horrible, it's impossible to see why anyone would willingly tell them. Scientists have actually found an inkling of survival instinct in hipsters, as even they are physically unable to enjoy dad jokes ironically. There's only one suitable reaction to hearing one:
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You make this face, then you set the teller on fire.
Dad jokes suck. You've thought so all your life. And then, one day, you're discussing Vladimir Putin's latest supervillain antics with your friends, and suddenly you feel the need to be funny. You may fully realize what you're about to say is so awful it's going to make your friends burn you at the stake. But you can't help it. Like the first time you masturbated, a strange feeling inside you is forcing your hand.
"Actually, I've been thinking about moving to Moscow, but there's no point RUSSIAN into things."
And then everyone beats you up and never talks to you again.
This is especially embarrassing if you're on a romantic dinner and the only person who hears you is your date.
Has this happened to you yet? Well, it's going to. At some point, dad jokes are going to enter your life, and they never really go away. Although becoming a father can greatly accelerate the process, getting infected with acute paterlocusitis actually has nothing to do with being a parent. I have to proofread every column I write thrice to catch the errant awful dad pun that has managed to inch its way in (my success rate varies). It's the same with most of my friends, children or no children; these crappy attempts at comedy just keep creeping into the conversations, to the point where we're starting to ignore them or, worse, find them funny.
Clearly, this is a side effect of aging. Maybe we've just become so jaded and/or experienced in the ways of the world that dad jokes seem like relatively innocent things instead of the abominations that they clearly are. Maybe our brains are slowly going soft as the ever-waiting grave is inching nearer and nearer. Whatever the reason, it's a situation that smells worse than a dog with no nose. Goddammit.
4The Moment You Understand the Concept of Financial Responsibility
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I remember when I first realized I made a lot less money than I was spending. I was pretty young, but still way older than I probably should have been to start understanding the very basic mathematics of money: have enough of it, or you're screwed.
I can speak only for myself, and I think we can all agree that I'm a fucking idiot, but for the longest time I genuinely thought I was the only person who was capable of messing things up so bad. Sure, my friends were constantly saying they didn't have any money, and I was pretty used to living from paycheck to paycheck myself. But even the most vocal no-money-havers among us always seemed to have enough for beer, video games, partying, and other things that make up the essentials of your life when you're in your early 20s. Having no money was not a tangible concept; it was a game of complaints you played before you went out drinking with the money you weren't supposed to have.
And then, one day, I really didn't have enough money to pay the bills or even buy food, and that's when the penny dropped and knocked me right the fuck out.
I used to call the bank dude "Penny," which probably played a part in why he knocked me out.
It's not exactly the first thing you bring up in a conversation (which is why I used to think I was the only person on Earth who didn't understand how money works), but pretty much everyone I've talked to about this seems to have a similar story of sobering (and often terrifying) fiscal realization. The actual experiences vary wildly: Some had their "shit, I should probably take care of my cash" moment when they were 14 and have kept a careful tab of their finances ever since. Others rake in debt like it's the most natural thing in the world until they're in their 30s and suddenly their credit goes sour and a hundred creditors come calling. Regardless of the actual nature of the experience, everyone faces it at some point. If you haven't had it yet, it's coming somewhere down the line. You'll know it when it comes -- unless you're lucky enough to have been born wealthy, that first tang of true financial burden feels almost exactly like the universe kicking you in the crotch and pouring rotten emptiness down your throat.
But that feeling will pass, and you'll come through wiser. Or not. That part is your call, really.