5 Creepy Dating Site Messages Every Woman Has Received

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You know where it really sucks to be a woman on the Internet, besides, like, BroBible and the comments section of articles on sexual assault? Dating websites. Well, to be fair, the last long-term relationship I had started through OkCupid, so there's that. To be fairer, it still wasn't that great, and, even worse, I had to sift through hundreds of bullshit sexist messages from the biggest creeps on Earth before it happened.

That doesn't mean no good should come of it all, though. With that in mind, I went through all my old messages to find examples of the most heinous comments I've received over the years. One $10 plastic handle of vodka later, I only hope someone learns something. Here are a few of the messages dudes need to stop sending on dating sites.

"Sex? ;)" Messages

I know this is quite forward... but better than bullshit. May 9,2013-4:01pm Sex? :) May Ishow you a thing or two? promise... gentie, fun and great tim

Sending me a message blatantly asking for sex makes me as dry as I imagine doing the cinnamon challenge with my vagina would. Fuck, I'd rather actually do the cinnamon challenge with my vagina than fuck you. You're all welcome for that image.

5 Creepy Dating Site Messages Every Woman Has Received
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And this one, I suppose.

I can already hear someone in the comments going, "Well, at least he's being honest!" and I think that person is under the impression that women get flowery messages from dudes who are pretending to care about who we are as a person, all with the secret intent of tricking us into fucking them. That has never happened. It's mostly just all gross.

At least a third of the messages I get (and ignore) are of the "do you want to have sex?" variety. And here's the thing -- I'm on a fucking dating website. I am hoping to go on a date and ideally to get all up in someone's emotional and/or genital space at some point after that. Just because I am open to dating/sex doesn't mean you get to stop talking to me like I'm a real person.

It's the same "well, you clearly want attention!" bullshit that women get all the time. OK, and my counter argument is going to be squeezing your junk like that creep from the Shamwow infomercials while exclaiming, "Well, you clearly wanted me to touch your dick so here I am!!!" Don't fucking sell yourselves short; y'all are smarter than that.

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Or at least smarter than this guy.

Women have been saying this forever, but catcalling is not flattering, and it is certainly not attractive -- why would the OkCupid version of that be any different? If you can't have a conversation that doesn't revolve around your dick, then you need to do some remedial social education or something.

Also, quick side note: I get a few messages every year asking me if I'd like to have sex on a boat. Stop. Don't do that. I watch Investigation Discovery too. I am less impressed with your boat than I am worried about the fact that you could totally kill me and get rid of my body without anyone ever knowing.

Fetish Requests

Hey, hows your night going? I enjoyed reading your profile and would love to chat Sep 22, 2013- 10:09pm with you sometime. Message me back and we'll s

As terrifying as his username may be, at least the dude in the above message had the decency to not get freaky right away. This guy, on the other hand ...

5 Creepy Dating Site Messages Every Woman Has Received

... not so much.

Now is the time for all Cracked readers who complain about my swearing to get their dicks nice and hard on their high fucking horses, because FetLife-esque messages are the fucking worst, and I can't talk about it without throwing out enough curse words that I'd go broke if someone slipped a swear jar in front of me.

Look, unless you give me a reason to, I don't give a fuck about the way you want to tinkertoy your dick with someone else's genitals, but there is a time and a place for everything. No one wants to hear about what revs your dick up on the first date. Park that shit in a garage until at least the third date like a normal person, goddamn.

If you're looking to base an entire relationship around some kink, go to FetLife and leave me the fuck alone. If you don't know what FetLife is, stop lying and go to FetLife already. Just because you're online doesn't mean the basic rules of social interaction suddenly don't apply. If you came up to me in public purring about wanting to be my daddy, I would mace you so fast that you'd be clawing your own eyes out while wondering what in your fairy tale age-play life went wrong.

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I use the cute kind, though.

Let me tell you right now -- it went wrong the second you asked some random woman to call you daddy. You can purr right up your own asshole with that shit. Y'all need 50 shades of Jesus and some sensitivity training.

One guy who I kindly told to get the fuck away from me with his slave fantasy protested that FetLife wasn't as well-known so a lot of people were "resorting" to OkCupid. Fine. Here ya go -- FetLife exists! Go do your power play and your vore and all that shit over there, and stop "resorting" to asking young women to be your sex slaves. Your fetish doesn't take precedent over a woman's right not to fucking deal with that shit.

Messages That Make It Clear You Didn't Read My Profile

Hey, how is it going? Sent on 1/11/2013 Block them Report You are literally 99% enemy. You're pro-life, sexist and homophobic. You also believe there

OkCupid suggests matches for you based on your match percent, which is determined by answering a bunch of questions. There are thousands of questions, and the more you answer, the more accurate your match percent will be.

Some of the questions are benign, some are about how socially liberal or conservative you are, some are about what you're expecting from a relationship, etc. When you look at someone else's profile, you can see how much of a match that person is with you, and can look at the questions that you disagreed on. If you don't match, they literally call that person your enemy. It's a remarkably easy system to master. Nevertheless, messages like the one above arrive in my inbox almost daily.

Someone sent me a Cracked message once saying I was "very tumblr," and I'm not for one second pretending that shit isn't true. My OkCupid profile makes that shit abundantly clear. I literally use the word "kyriarchy" in my bio, have Audre Lorde listed as my favorite author, and set my profile picture to me doing a Rosie the Riveter pose at my first pride parade.

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That's not me and that's definitely not a pride parade, but you get the idea.

Only two of those are true but at that point, does it matter which one's a lie?

I'm not even talking about the messages from men who are mad at my profile and send me "cumslut" messages -- y'all are boring and need to get a hobby or spend time with your mom or something. Get your lives together.

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Also, your mom's the slut.

No for this, I'm talking about messages from people who are like, a 25 percent match but then act all surprised when I shut down their advances. I mean, you answered match questions saying that there are times when women owe you sex and that you think race and intelligence are correlated. If this was NextBus, your three fun facts would be "still says 'no homo,' has completely overreacted to a perceived slight in a bar, questionable reading comprehension." How I feel about you as a person aside (though for real, you suck), in what reality do you think we'd be compatible at all? Ever? Motherfucker if you are not at least a D+ grade in the match category, I don't have time for you.

The other, more creepy part of this ties in with the above FetLife bullshit. On my profile, it clearly states that I'm looking for men and women who aren't more than 10 years older than me. I get a lot of messages from older men, men who exceed that age range by 15 to 20 years. If you didn't watch at least one episode of a VH1 dating show, you are too old for me. If you watched Rock of Love With Bret Michaels and had any idea that Brett Michaels was like, an actual celebrity rather than some random old dude, you are either too old for me or slightly more culturally aware.

5 Creepy Dating Site Messages Every Woman Has Received

Negging Messages

P'll bite, you look like you could be exciting. Though what're you looking for on OkC? The love of your life or something more casual and fun and seei

Weirdly, "condescending" is not a trait I'm looking for when deciding if I want to hear about your life and/or touch your junk. This is fairly tame, but I've gotten enough weirdly backhanded compliments that this is clearly an approach that men think will work.

To anyone who "negs" -- I am laughing at you. The world is laughing at you. If the only way you can get someone to touch your cock is by exploiting women with low self-esteem, you are just as pathetic as you secretly worry you are. There isn't a whole lot else I can say about this one.

Messages That Make It Weird for Bisexual Women

I want HUMAN rights. There is no distinction between race, gender or background. Total equality is the way to go. I hope I can somehow talk you into b

Listing yourself as bisexual on dating websites is low-level masochism. I am listed as bisexual because "idk, idc" is not an option, unfortunately. OkCupid has a function where you can hide your profile from straight users, but I don't use that function because I'm lucky enough to not have to worry about my safety due to my sexual orientation, and despite everything listed above, I don't want to rule out all of the straight male population.

However ...

Would you ever consider a 3way wh two well hung dudes.... we're both 8 1/4 May 10,2013-7:321 inches, white, 5'10 and 6'0. drug 8 disease froe You're s

... a lot of people think bisexual women are actually just slutty and y'all can Google why you're wrong. I don't want to have a fucking threesome, I don't want to be marked out as highly sexual, and I don't want you shoving your dick in the conversation any more than I would if I was exclusively heterosexual. I don't care how big your dick is. I don't care what you and your girlfriend are looking for. It's not like I'm vehemently anti-threesome or whatever, but contrary to popular opinion, being bisexual isn't a synonym for hypersexual.

Like, do you think that porn is real and bisexual women are gonna throw down on you and your friend's genitals like a fucking Golden Corral buffet? Just because I can, in theory, be attracted to both you and your girlfriend doesn't mean that I'm automatically attracted to both of you, nor does it make it any less rude to ask me to spice up your sex life or whatever right off the bat.

Also, I really don't know what this is ...

1 love gay people Feb 20, 2013 11:27pm Message from S4% Match 16 Friend 42 Enemy Report this what Feb 20, 2013 11:30pm You said you don't like homopho

... but don't do it. Also, any "scheming gays" out there should hit me up; there's definitely an Ocean's 11 sequel in here somewhere.

Look, even if you're messaging women on UpperMiddleClassConservativeRelationships.com or whatever, all this still applies. Just ... talk to women like they're people, not giggling fleshlights.


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