The 6 (Wrong) Questions Men Love to Ask About Women

#4. "Why Won't Women Tell You What's Wrong?"

The right question:

"Why might telling not work in this situation?"

This idea that women have some across-the-board tendency to "never tell what's wrong" breaks down when you note that the same people who ask this question also find themselves complaining about women's nagging, or the dreaded "can we talk" question, so it's pretty clear their women are pretty vocal about stating what's wrong in a variety of situations.

Perhaps too vocal.

But sometimes a woman won't answer that question, usually because she sees it as a no-win dilemma.

The first possibility is that what you did wrong is so glaringly obvious (to her) that she thinks it is you who are playing the game, and does not understand what you are trying to do. Like if you had sex with a man, or killed her dog, or both.

"What? Why won't you tell me what's wrong?"

The second possibility is that what you did wrong is so glaringly obvious (to her) that she realizes she has entered into a relationship with a man who cannot grasp a person's most basic needs without being given a laminated chart every day. She is envisioning a lifetime of constantly giving explanations about why it is wrong to skip her birthday to get drunk with his friends, or flirt with 16-year-olds in an online game. Why push that boulder up that hill today? It's not like she won't get to do it a thousand times more.

All women are well-versed in classical mythology.

A third possibility is that it's something she wanted you to do on your own initiative, like compliment her haircut or ask about her day. These things don't really mean a lot when done mechanically, which is what's going to happen if she says, "What's wrong is I wanted you to ask about my day," and you say, "Oh, of course, tell me about your day." That setup doesn't leave one convinced that you actually want to hear about her day. And compliments given on command are pretty worthless too.

"Honey, what do you think of my new contacts?"

It's unfair, but there's not a lot either of you can do about it at the time.

And finally, as mentioned before, the Manipulative Harpy does exist, sometimes a little bit in all of us, and could very well be doing it because she hates you.

#5. "Why Do Women Fuss So Much About X Trait (Makeup, Type of Clothes, Shoes) When Us Men Clearly Prefer Natural Beauty?"

The right question(s):

A) "Are they even doing it for men?"

B) "Is your idea of 'natural beauty' actually natural?"

First of all, most women's lives do not revolve entirely around pleasing men. When I get new clothes, do you know who I expect to notice? Other women and gay men.

OK, these women are in fact probably dressing specifically to please men.

If you look at women's magazines, there will be a pretty woman on the cover, and inside there will be tips on how to look like a pretty woman, as well as some kind of pointing and laughing at "fashion blunders." Not everyone wants to be a Marie Claire girl, but every demographic has fashion do's and don'ts, and nobody wants to be a fashion don't.

This seems to be a "don't."

Most girls want to meet the standards of their style, as set by their peer group. Goth girls want to look properly pasty. Female ICP fans want to be the loudest, most hideous thing visible at the Wal-Mart.

They'll do all of this even without boys in the picture. It's about living up to girl standards.

Secondly, many of these "unimportant" things do actually go towards making a girl attractive in the way men like. For example, the right kind of shirt will flatter or even shape a girl's boobs, something men have to admit does matter to them. The right boot/skirt combo can show the good parts of a girl's legs while hiding the fat/pasty parts. It's unfair to complain about her fussing about clothes, while appreciating the result.

These two near-identical everyday outfits have key differences in boob/leg display methods that anyone can enjoy studying.

For guys that say they hate makeup, many girls use a certain amount of makeup just to get to "normal." So girls with bad complexions (a.k.a. white girls) use foundation just to cover up blemishes, not to look like a painted whore. Or girls with tiny pig-like eyes (me) need eyeliner just to give the illusion they have normal-sized eyes. The point of daily makeup is to get from "ugly" (which doesn't necessarily mean ugly, see above) to "normal." If it gets to the point where you notice the actual makeup, it's either overdone, she's going to a special event or she's in show business.

Not totally "natural" looks here, but Alicia Silverstone and Heidi Klum are
going about as light on the makeup here as celebrities ever go at photo shoots.

#6. "Why Do Guys Have to do All the Work to Get a Relationship While Women Just Sit There and Can Pick Any Guy They Want?"

The right question:

"Why do I only look at the women that can pick any guy they want?"

The problem here is usually a sampling error, and the solution is to take a statistics class. The pool of women you look at to make this observation is going to be skewed toward women you like to look at. Their awkward ugly friend in the corner there can't pick any guy she wants, and you probably haven't even noticed her to the point where you include her in your survey.

No, not that. An ACTUAL ugly girl.

There are a lot of fairly sad, desperate girls out there, a situation I am no stranger to. Lonely, no-luck girls spend plenty of time obsessing over what it will take to get a guy, and often throw aside their dignity in a shameless and often fruitless attempt to pursue one. Then they will have a sob session with their girlfriends about "why doesn't he like me?" It's actually kind of funny when you look back on it.

We've all been there.

Anyway, the point is, when you try to remember "every girl" you've met to prove this is true with "every girl," you will remember the most memorable girls and not remember us sad sacks, who are simultaneously asking the same exact same question about guys, probably in the girls' bathroom while crying.

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